This year my son began his freshman year in high school, a moment we've preparing him for since the...
Five Nights a Week
As quarantine became our way of life, my wife and I saw an opportunity to hit the reset button...
Parenting in a Pandemic
In a world where we are handing kids screens like number two pencils, all in the name of "distance...
Dad, Shut up and Listen
Have you ever thought your teenager was the problem, but then realized you were the problem? This happened to...
Talking with Your Kids about Difficult News
In a world so full of fear and unrest, how can you help your kids not only process what...
Three Phrases NOT to Say to Your Kids in Crisis
During stressful times it can be difficult to find the right words to say…and NOT say. Here are three...
TikTok Offers New ‘Family Pairing’
TikTok adds a new feature allowing parents to remotely set restrictions on their kids’ accounts. The question is…does this...
7 MORE Fun Family Activities to Pass Time While Sequestered
You are a couple weeks into it now, and if you’re like me, you’re tired of being cooped up....
Young People, Screens, and the Coronavirus
7 helpful ideas for families stuck at home (and you definitely WON’T want to skip the second one). In...
Godly Teens
Many parents want to know, “How can we help our kids actually grow in their faith?” or, “How can...
Turning Your Overreaction into Interaction
How do you respond when your family encounters sensual media (like, for example, a Super Bowl halftime show) and...
Courageous Faith
As parents, we have the wonderful opportunity of raising the next Joseph, Ruth, Samuel, Daniel, Mary, or Timothy. Those...
Mom, Can I Have Tik Tok?
If your kid has a device, then chances are they have, want, or at least know about Tik Tok,...
The Best of 2019
As you look back at 2019, here are the top parenting articles YOU liked from TheSource4Parents.com—the articles you won't...
Smartphones and Tablets Under the Christmas Tree?
10,000 teenagers were asked what they want for Christmas this year and the number one brand they desired was...
The Hidden Damage from Porn Use
The number of teenagers from the United Kingdom requiring sex therapy has more than tripled in just two years....
Mom and Dad…Calm Down
In a world where 32% of teenagers will experience some form of an anxiety disorder, moms and dads might...
Replaceable Parents
Let me be crystal clear: the only parents who are expendable, obsolete, or irrelevant are those who’ve chosen to...
Sensible (Bare Minimum) Screen-Limits
What are some realistic screen-limits that won’t stifle our kids ability to learn discernment with their devices? Let’s take...
Checklist for College
If you’re a parent who’s packing up a high school graduate for his or her first year away from...
Building the Self-Esteem of Generation-Screen
How can we help our kids feel better about self when the device in their pocket is making them...
Taking Control of Tech
"Those kids are always on their phones! Makes you wonder where their parents are!" Well, according to the research....
When Bad Parents Happen to Good Sports
At many of the sporting events I’ve attended over the years – whether as a player or as a...
Helping Your Son Escape Porn
In a world where 41% of Christian boys age 13-24 seek out porn at least once a month, how...
Fonesty
/ˈfänəstē/ noun. 1. Fake honesty. When your kid looks you in the eye, says "honest"... and her nose grows...
Just One Thing Your Kids Need to Know about Weed
Only 26% of high schoolers think Marijuana offers risk of harm. In other words, over three quarters of high...
“I Don’t Wanna Go”
“Harrison, just doesn’t want to attend church with us,” said a friend about his teenage son. With a grimace...
Finding Holiday Quality-Time Connections
School’s out, Mom's off work, the family gathers around a table, and there's a natural focus on the important...
Using Tetris 99 to Introduce Your Kids to Online Gaming
Tetris… but against 99 other players from around the world? Sounds fun. But is it safe for your kids?...
Helping Kids Hear Truth in a World Blaring Lies
Once parents find the perfect porn filters or software monitoring, they subconsciously think, “Whew. Now my kids are safe...
Overly Busy Kids
Academics, extracurricular activities, sports, and personal interests can take their toll on a kid’s schedule. Football season bleeds into...
Free Range Children?
There are two very big extremes in parenting, completely caged or totally free-range children. Which do you gravitate towards?
Bandersnatch: Bad Messages for the Young Artist
As a gamer I couldn’t have been more excited when I first saw the release of Netflix’s "Bandersnatch," a...
Friend Me
What happens when we try to be our kid's friend? I'll never forget a moment when I was young...
Taming the Monsters!
Is it just me… or are rude kids becoming a little more commonplace? What is it? Some learned behavior...
All About the Minutes
Do you spend more time hanging with your kids…or watching Netflix? Look no farther than this new analysis from...
The Steam Store: Is it Possible to Monitor Your Child’s Use of It?
Do you know what Steam is? If your kids are gamers, then they probably do. It's a "store" of...
Interrupt Me . . . Please
Being a Do NOT Disturb Parent. What if some day you actually miss being interrupted by your kids? It’s hard...
Drama Queens (*and Kings)
We like to hope drama is just limited to a few cliques of mean girls during middle school but...
When Trust Gets Shattered
“Did you do it?” “No sir.” He was lying. And I knew he was lying. The only question...
The 2018 Gaming Gift Guide
It’s almost Black Friday, and if you have kids, chances are they have at least one video game on...
Digital Hurt
"Smartphones have made bullying far worse. It doesn’t stop at school. It blows up overnight and we have to...
Thinking Beyond Her Selfie
Teaching Your Daughter to See Beyond Her Social Media FeedWe have all seen the tween/teen girls at the mall,...
Navigating Emotional Teenagers
The abrupt answers. Her escalating tone. The provoking encounters with her sisters. It was evident that something was going...
Biblical Lessons in “The World Ends with You”
The World Ends With You: Final Remix is out on the Nintendo Switch, and with it comes a great opportunity...
Talking Politics with Teens
Helping Them Stay Informed...And Out of the MudAt dinner one night last week, our 12-year-old son said, “Dad, it...
Just Ignore It
By Jonathan McKeeThe following is an excerpt of one of the earlier chapters of my brand new book, The...
Because Parents Bring It
4 Compelling Reasons Parents Should Consider Volunteering in Youth MinistryI’m going on record: parents have been some of my...
Terrorists and Toddlers
Parents Should Never Negotiate With EitherHis eyes were bloodshot. His arms were violently swinging in every direction. His face...
5 Facts Most Kids Don’t Know About Managing Money
This week Gen Y experts at YPulse surveyed Gen Z and Millennials age 13-36 asking what they would buy...
4 Things Middle Years Parents Need to Understand About Their Child
The Middle Years are the years between 5thand 9thgrade, roughly ages 10 years old to 14 years old. These...
Should I Spy on My Kids?
It’s one of the top questions I’m asked at my parent workshops and something today’s moms and dads all...
Family Faith
Ideas for Enhancing In-Home DevotionsDavid R SmithMaybe your family devotions need a few adjustments to restore excitement and growth....
Answering top questions from today’s parents
The questions are almost always the same…What age do you recommend giving our kids phones?What is the easiest way...
Discussing Drake with Your Kids
If your kid has access to a phone, and according to Pew’s brand new social media report released last week,...
Mom, I Wanna Become an Instagram Celebrity
After a TV interview discussing my new book to teens about “wise posting in an insecure world,” the 30-something...
My Kids Can’t Stop Playing Fortnite
It’s a video game that many have described as Minecraftmeets Left 4 Dead (which covers a pretty broad spectrum… in movies it...
Parenting Middle Schoolers
Parenting was difficult enough, and then our kids metamorphosized into something called a “tween.” They’re kind of like mutants...
Please Remove Your Headphones
“Could you please take off those headphones… I’m talking to you!”If you have a teenager in the house, then...
Helping Your Kids THINK Before They CLICK
Have you ever regretted something you posted on social media?Don’t feel bad, 57% of Americans who use social media have posted...
3 Ingredients Catalyzing the Spike in Teen Depression
Last week I had the opportunity to talk with teenagers in Georgia… the topic of my choice. So I...
Who is Peeking at Your Kids?
A 44-year-old Los Angeles man was arrested last year for using the location information from people’s Facebook and Instagram...
Is Getting Wasted Really a Big Deal?
“Mom, smoking weed really isn’t a big deal.”It’s what millions of parents are hearing from their kids. After all,...
Parenting Teenagers in a Divisive Political Climate
Support our troops.That’s what almost every bumper sticker in my town read.I was only 15-years-old, and I remember feeling...
Unpacking 13 Reasons Why
It’s Hannah, Hannah Baker… I’m about to tell you…why my life ended. And if you’re listening to this tape,...
My 16-Year-Old Doesn’t Believe: Part 2
In the last year, we have noticed a growing number of parents asking us the question, “What do I...
My 16-Year-Old Doesn’t Believe
I’m not sure if it’s because more American young people actually don’t believe, or if it’s simply because our culture...
Bonding or Boundaries
The following article is an excerpt from Jonathan’s brand new book, If I Had a Parenting Do Over“My seventeen-year-old daughter...
Teens Losing Sleep Over Social Media
Message more, sleep less… do worse at school. It’s a simple equation.New studies are showing constant connectivity is affecting...
Using Netflix to Talk with Our Kids
Engaging our kids in meaningful conversations about stuff that matters.Sounds cool, huh?It’s more difficult than it sounds, especially in...
Overparenting… Underparenting
Today’s parents are hearing mixes messages from the media. On one hand they read a headline conveying time spent with...
My Top 5 Ways to Connect with Today’s Young People…
“Will you put that stupid phone away!”An all too common complaint in American homes today. But does whining about...
My Kids Like Bad Youth Group Kids
Yesterday I received an all too common question from a concerned mom whose son just began attending youth group...
2 Undeniable Facts About Parental Controls and Porn Blocks
I hear it at every parent workshop I teach. The question goes something like this:“What is the best Internet...
Addicted
Who is staring at screens more, teens or adults?When our measuring tape isn’t long enough… does it even matter?We’ve never...
The Best Tech I Ever Bought
“That’s the stupidest thing you’ve ever bought!” This is what our son Paul said when Kristen and I brought home...
Middle Schoolers Are All About Change
I’m convinced that understanding middle schoolers is the second most important thing you can do to increase your effectiveness...
Finding Your Way in the Parenting Jungle
My in-laws recently moved into our garden flat but months before the removal truck arrived, a huge trailer loaded...
Are SmartPhones & Social Media Too Dangerous for My Kids?
I don’t know which is worse, the parent who just hands their 12-year-old a SmartPhone with no guidance whatsoever,...
The Radical Shift in the Experience of Being a Young Teen
The middle school years (11 to 14 years old) are one of the most misunderstood and underappreciated developmental periods...
Am I Really Supposed to Tell My 8-year-old About Sex?
This morning I received the following question from a concerned parent:Dear Jonathan,A few days ago my 8-year-old son was...
3 Truths Your Kids Need to Know on Valentine’s Day
Romance is in the air… and so is a WiFi signal. Both carry the “expectations” of how young people are...
The Importance of Storytelling
When my two teenage children are with my parents – their grandparents – in my home state, they consistently...
The Smartphone—Today’s Conversation Killer
“Studies of conversation both in the laboratory and in natural settings show that when two people are talking, the...
4 Steps to Asking Well-placed Questions
You’re watching Netflix with your teenagers, and you can’t help but notice one of the main characters in the...
Filtering Rihanna
“What software can I download on my kid’s screens to make sure they don’t see Rihanna’s scandalous new “BBHMM”...
Three Ways I’ve Adapted to Survive Parenting
Effective parenting requires a hefty learning curve. Today’s parents must observe and adapt to survive. The more I parent,...
Before She Says “I Do”
Last June on Father’s Day, I stood at the brink of performing the marriage of our daughter. As the...
Three Parenting Practices Preventing the Permeation of Porn
“Not my kid!”That’s the first thing I hear from parents who think somehow their kids won’t encounter porn, even...
Does Mere Quality Time Actually Help Our Kids?
The more time I “hang” with my kids, the better… right?I guess that depends. Define “hang.” Silently sitting and watching...
When Kids Ask About… WHAT?!!
"What's the big deal about anal?"A mom in one of my parenting workshops just heard this from her daughter....
Creating a Comfortable Climate of Continual Conversations… About SEX
A single nude image found on a single high school student's phone at a single school... led to literally...
Raising Sponges
Who learns faster, a teen, or an adult?Teen’s can actually learn “faster, harder, better, longer, stronger” than adults. It’s...
Smartphone Addiction
How many times have you heard a friend or acquaintance joke about their teen being addicted to a Smartphone?...
6 Games That Could Change Your Kid’s (Or Your) Life
Video games have come a long way. About 30 years ago they had barely become anything more than simple,...
The Secret to Quality Time with Your Kids
“Dad, do you have to work now, or can you just hang with me?”Let’s be honest. How often does...
What Is Your Kid’s Tech SweetSpot?
Want to improve your relationship with your kid? Add another channel of technical communication.Don’t take my word for it....
Help, My Kid Spends Too Much Time Gaming!
In the last few months we’ve published several “Parenting Help” articles on TheSource4Parents.com about gaming, helping parents learn a little more...
When Smartphones Distract Study
The debate about technology is ongoing. Young people overwhelmingly are embracing their smartphones, tablets and other screens into every...
The Value of Video Games
Our culture (especially our Christian culture) has dedicated a lot of thought and time to why we should avoid...
Creating ‘Feelsafe’ Moments
Mom drops off the last kid in the carpool and her 15-year-old slides into the front seat.“Mom, when you...
3 Essentials to Talking with Today’s Teens
This situation isn’t uncommon. A mom sits at dinner with her two disinterested teens, slumped over their plates. She...
The Appeal of Video Games
As video games have become an important cultural force over the last few decades, people have put a lot...
Moving from YOU SHOULD to SHOULD YOU?
Which do you think is a more effective way to teach today’s young people how to make good decisions?“You...
Which Listener Are You?
Two teenagers each sit down in front of an adult in two totally separate venues. In each situation an...
Put Your Phone Away… Mom!
The number one complaint I hear from parents today: “My kid can’t go five minutes without looking at her stupid...
Dating Against the Flow
When my grandpa got married, 65% of couples were married between the ages of 18 and 32.Today, only 26% are...
Addicted to Technology?
We live in a culture where addictions are widespread.Not a day goes by without us hearing about and being...
Keeping Instagram Safe
Should I let my daughter have Instagram?I’m asked that question frequently at my parenting workshops, and it’s no wonder. Almost...
Spying on Your Teenagers
Is it okay for a parent to spy on their teenager?Ask that question to a group of parents and...
Getting Teenagers Talking
It’s not always easy to engage a teenager in meaningful conversation. If you’re a parent of a teen, you...
But Mom, It’s Clean
“Mom, can I download this song?”“Sure, as long as you don’t download any of those explicit songs.”Sound familiar? It’s...
Four Practices That Build a Girl’s Self Image
A Victoria’s Secret commercial, a bikini clad girl in a reality show… a selfie pic posted by her best friend who...
5 Parenting Tips You Don’t Typically Hear
As a parenting author I’ve seen hundreds of parenting books and read countless articles. Often, they are echoing the...
Parenting 17-year-olds like 18-year-olds
The last 6 months I’ve been conducting a little experiment; but, instead of using rats… I used my daughter.No, I...
Got A Young Teen?
If you have a young teen living in your home, you gain a whole new appreciation for the concept...
Boys Need Men
Early in the movie, GoodFellas, Ray Liotta’s character is a teenage boy working for the neighborhood “wiseguys” or members of...
I’m Bored
A Few Ideas to Beat the Summertime BluesIn the next few weeks, teenagers will say goodbye to the classrooms...
4 Tips to Teach Kids Delayed Gratification
Today, with the challenges to our economy, it is imperative to teach your children the self-discipline of delayed gratification,...
The Pressures of Prom
If being a teenager wasn’t difficult enough…enter prom season.Long gone are the days of the simple, innocent dance reserved...
Hope in a Hopeless Situation
Raising Kids When Divorce Gets UglyI have a friend- we’ll call him Dan- whose world was train wrecked 10...
Raising Kids in a Divorced Home
“For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel (Malachi 2:16)And I can see why…I was 35 at...
Behind the Family Portrait
I always find the pictures on the front of parenting books a little unrealistic, only to the extent that...
“Shhhhh! Don’t Talk About Sex!”
What Happens When a Society Goes Silent on Sex?In the spring of 2012, I was speaking at a camp...
Telling Teenagers the Explicit Truth About Sex
Four Facts About Sex We Just Can't Keep to OurselvesTalking with our kids about sex is never easy. Consequently,...
Backtalking to Mom Should Be Rewarded?
“I thought I told you to clean your room.”“You did tell me that, and here’s why I didn’t…” How many...
Sisters Learning to Become Friends
Earlier this year I blogged about knocking down a wall in my house between my girls’ rooms.No, it wasn’t...
Teenage Perspective on Parenting
Have you ever asked your own kids for parenting advice?It’s a sobering little exercise, and I’ve discovered two environments...
Yelling Works…Temporarily
My daughters were monsters this weekend!No, not Lady Gaga fans (Gaga calls her fans her “little monsters”), but literal...
The Stages of Pornography
Why Porn Might Bring Down This CulturePerhaps pornography, more than any other issue of today’s culture, has the greatest...
To Glee or Not to Glee
Prior to May 19, 2009, the word glee was obscure, nothing more than a right-click synonym for happiness or delight. But following American Idol that Tuesday night,...
10 Ways to Correct Behavior Without Crushing Character
Have you ever noticed how many life lessons you can learn in a garden? In a few cubic yards...
Don’t Require Your Kids to Misbehave
Remember when your kids were little?“Watch me! Watch me!”Children love it when parents pay attention to what they are...
What Kids (Really) Want
Every teen wants a cool cell phone. Most want slick cars. Many want the latest video game. No surprise,...
Fix My Kid
“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not turn from...
Blurred Reality
Today’s front pages are often littered with articles about new interesting risky behaviors teens are practicing. Teenagers drive too...
Three Cheers for Chores
“But you don’t understand. I have my life to live and there are things that are important to me....
Move Over Mario
With summer in full swing, teenagers can finally do what they’ve dreamt about all school year long: play weeks...
Banning Best Friends
What do teen friendships look like from your vantage point? Large groups of kids hanging out freely and loosely,...
When Pain is All You Have
17-year-old Lauren was despondent over breaking up with her boyfriend. She had never known pain so deep and lingering.She...
How to Talk to Your Kids About Drugs
Co Authored By Stephen ArterburnNo parent wants their kids to experience the consequences of drug and alcohol abuse.One of...
Monkey See Monkey Do
“Hooking up.” “Booty calls.” “Friends with benefits.” Regardless what you call it, casual sex – with “no strings attached” – is...
Will I Ever Be Satisfied?
Will I Ever Be Satisfied?I wrote the following article after my wife and I moved our older daughter, Annie,...
The Scope of Sexting
Let’s do each other a favor and admit two things: one, sexting exists, and two, it’s a problem.Now that...
Stressed Out
According to new research, there are five times as many kids in this generation who are “stressed out” than...
Dad, can I download this song?
“Dad, can I download Down?” That’s what my 14-year-old asked me this week, hoping to download the song from iTunes onto...
God Doesn’t Ask Us to Be Successful
A number of years ago, I went to a funeral that affected me profoundly. This story actually goes back...
Culture’s Confusion Over Sex
“There’s a big difference between pornography and erotica.” “There’s no difference between coed dorms and gender-split dorms on campus.”...
Do You Care About Your Children?
A mother told me she was worried about her son’s choices in music.He continued to listen to his music...
“I’m Trying to Talk to You!”
Ever email a teenager and never get a response? But then you text the same kid and hear back in 26...
The Fine Art of Stealth Communication
“Hey, Chris, what’s up?”“Not much, Dad. Just thinking.”“Anything I can help you with?”“Well, I don’t know. I’m just worried...
“Say Aah” …and, “What’s in Your iPod?”
“Let me check your ears. Okay, now stick out your tongue and say ‘Aaaah.’ Very good. Now… how much TV...
Teen Sex Escalation
The number of HIV/AIDS cases has doubled over the past decade. One-in-four teenage girls have an STD. Teen birth...
Celebrate Your Marriage
Make a big deal out of your anniversary.If you are in a two-parent family, your wedding anniversary should rank...
Handling Social Media with Your Kids
Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock for the past few years, you’re aware of the rise in popularity...
“My Kid Doesn’t Do That!”
The Internet. It’s how teens meet friends, make plans, entertain themselves, do homework, and in some cases, attend school....
Circle the Wagons
Rock music Parents Television The peer group Grandparents Movie stars Neighbors The advertising industry Political leaders Schoolteachers The internet Church youth leaders Drug pushers Family friends Uncles and aunts The Bible InfluencesThey play a huge...
A Bloody Cry for Help
The pressures of life were getting harder and harder to handle. "Carrie" faced incredible expectations from those around her...
How to Protect Your Kids from Cyberbullies
Through the Internet, email, instant messaging and blogging, cyberspace has become part of the cultural landscape for adolescents today....
No Need to Study
Some of us, if we’re honest, have cheated at some time or another in our lifetime. Those of us...
Act Your Age
No, Brandon, I’m not going to give you an advance on your allowance. Money doesn’t grow on trees! Besides,...
The Pain Over Posted Pics
“Ben” is an 18 year old freshman at the University of Florida, and on his Facebook page, he can...
Is Prayer Your First or Last Resort?
Something happened to me recently, as I was giving a radio interview about my seminar, Where Are the Lines? 10...
The Elephant in the Room
“Yeah, gimme a Number Six with cheese, a large fry, a chocolate milkshake… and a Diet Coke.”“That’ll be $6.14,...
Teach Your Children The 4 R’s
And you thought there were only three!No, I’m not adding another R to readin’, ‘ritin’ and ‘rithmetic. There are...
Are Parents Obsolete?
Last week, the 10th Anniversary edition of Judith Harris’ The Nurture Assumption hit bookshelves. In this controversial book, she asserts that...
Why I Allowed My 12-year-old to See Rated R… but Not PG-13!
Yes ... it's true. My son Alec and I recently watched the 'R' rated The Last Samurai together. But I won't...
When Girls Don’t Like Themselves
According to Dove’s recent study on self-esteem amongst girls aged 8-17, seven out of ten felt as though they didn’t “measure up” in...
A Hill Worth Dying On
The longer you’re a parent, the more you realize there are fewer and fewer hills to die on. I...
Mobile Porn
An artIt’s all too common to see teenagers using MySpace and Facebook to share racy pics of themselves. Lately,...
Five Keys for Teaching Kids Healthy Sexuality
For most of us, our parents didn't talk to us about healthy sexuality, and unfortunately, we're not doing much...
I’m in Love with a Vampire
An article What happens when a 17-year-old girl falls helplessly in love with the sexiest boy in the world… who’s...
Don’t Believe the Lie; There is Hope
It saddens me to see the majority of our young people accepting, without hesitation, the philosophy of hopelessness presented...
The Blame Game on Drinking Games
Alcohol is involved in the death of 5,000 young people under the age of 21 every year. More than...
Does Everything Have to Be a Learning Experience
I love baseball. I love watching baseball. I loved playing baseball as a youth.I loved playing softball as an...
Are You Winning the Battle
I once believed one advantage of having daughters was that my clothes would be safe. After all, girls wear...
Smile-You Have a Teenager in Your House
“When a youngster turns 13, put him in a pickle barrel, nail the lid shut and feed him through...
Do Bad Lyrics Really Affect Teenagers?
It started with an anonymous 14 year old girl in a chat room talking about chart topping songs when...
With No Boundaries, It’s Impossible to Go Too Far
A short while ago, I received a call from a panicked father. He had been in his daughter’s bedroom...
Alcohol and Your Teen
Co-Authored by Stephen ArterburnAlcohol is a dangerous drug even though our society mistakenly views it as separate from other...
Keeping Your Kids Safe by Being Media-Wise
These days, our kids are being bombarded by messages from a variety of media sources: television, movies, radio, magazines,...
If Teenagers Only Had a Brain
Last night Fox aired the Teen Choice Awards.Teen Choice ... is that an oxymoron? Are teenagers really equipped to make good...
If Teenagers Only Had a Brain
Last night Fox aired the Teen Choice Awards.Teen Choice ... is that an oxymoron? Are teenagers really equipped to make good...
Six Essentials for Making Discipline Work In Your Home
When it comes to discipline, our kids probably don’t know that, in many ways, we parents are making it...