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Dear Katy Perry
An article from Jonathan McKee at

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This week Jonathan did a different spin on our Youth Culture Window article, writing a letter to Katy Perry about her influence on teenagers, especially young girls.

Dear Katy Perry,

I just wanted to write you a note to encourage you.

Part of my job is studying pop-youth-culture and helping parents and youth workers teach young people discernment. Obviously, much of your music has flowed from the iPods of teenagers around the world in the last few years. Songs like, Teenage Dream, California Gurls and Last Friday Night.

You’ve got some amazing talent, and people are resonating with you. The Billboard records you’ve set speak loudly.

It was probably a rough road getting there, gaining the attention of the world, deciding what people want to hear…deciding which lines you’d cross, which ones were too sacred. I can’t imagine the pressure you must face knowing that the world is watching your every move, knowing that some are waiting to criticize and judge.

That’s why I want to encourage you.

You’ve made it. People know you can sing. They like your music. They like you. So I guess that kind of leaves the ball in your court. You have their attention, now… what kind of role model do you want to be for them?

I was impressed with your newest song and music video Part of Me. Maybe it’s because the song affirms people to not let others drag them down. Or maybe it’s the pro-American soldier inference (I have a brother in law with the Marines in Afghanistan right now). Or perhaps it’s that I simply wonder what that “part of you” is that fame and money can’t take away. As your lyrics say…
    Throw your sticks and stones
    Throw your bombs and your blows
    But you're not gonna break my soul
    This is the part of me that you're never gonna ever take away from me
I see the good in you (not to get all Yoda on you or anything). I see the desire to inspire. So…what do you want to inspire people to do?

Katy, you have an awesome position of power right now. Like it or not, you are a role model for literally millions of young people around the world. You are being watched. What legacy do you want to leave? I know you’ve probably received more advice and “coaching” than you’d ever want. One of the previews for your upcoming movie showed your mom saying, “I’m not gonna watch you if you have half your clothes off.” The preview then contrasted her words with an image of you lying naked on a cloud. It can’t be easy navigating these waters of discernment with a critic around every turn. Yet, you’re the one at the helm. On one hand, you want to give your audience what they want and make them smile, but on the other hand, you know that young girls are watching you, and you don’t want them to ever think that their value only comes from their sexual appeal or behavior over that of other characteristics. And as much as it might make your audience chuckle when you tell the story of waking up hung over on Saturday and wondering what happened Last Friday Night… what if the message young people are hearing the loudest is when you say, “This Friday night, do it all again!” Do you really want young girls going off to college resonating with that lifestyle, knowing all the risks that accompany that behavior? Or is there a “part of you” that wants to inspire people to do more than that.

I don’t want to go through your past lyrics and jab at you. That’s not my intention. Frankly, I don’t care about your past, I care about your future. You have the power to make a huge difference in the lives of young people today. It wouldn’t necessarily be the most popular road; at times it probably would mean refraining from telling people simply what they want to hear. But do you want to tell people truth, or what they want to hear? Because there are plenty of artists out there who will tell people anything they want to hear, making lies sound like the truth. You have the power to do so much more.

I know you were raised in church and probably even recognize this passage. In Ephesians chapter 4, Paul writes:
    14 Then we will no longer be immature like children. We won’t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching. We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth. 15 Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
I can’t help but wonder what that part of you is that people can’t take away. I know that you know God, know his love for you, and you know what He desires for you. He’d love for you to speak truth.

The choice is up to you.

Thanks for the song, Part of Me. I hope to see more songs like it.

From one imperfect individual to another, struggling through these tumultuous waters,

Jonathan McKee

Jonathan McKee Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices, If I Had a Parenting Do Over, 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He has over 20 years youth ministry experience and speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers and parents on his websites, and You can follow Jonathan on his blog, getting a regular dose of youth culture and parenting help. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.

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Comments on this post

   Dina         7/1/2012 5:10:08 AM

This is so true. I used am using in a lesson for our youth. Thanks for the the inspiration you gave me as well In Christ, Dina

   Rishanth         6/26/2012 10:20:57 PM

I can only imagine what pressure these teen celebrities go through these days. And I appreciate you Jon for this lovely letter. Sometimes we are so quick to criticize and gossip about them, but this truly was such a gracious letter. I pray that she responds.

   Becky         6/19/2012 8:10:08 AM

Love the letter, and really appreciate the links. Wow! I hope people will actually click and read those studies, they really pack a punch.

   Mornette Scott-Riddell         6/18/2012 10:54:01 AM

Wow - powerful words in your letter - will be reading it to the teenager girls I minister to once a week at our local school. Thanks Jonathan, your encouraging words have definitely encouraged me. God bless you and thank you for standing up for the Truth.

   Cheri         6/18/2012 9:55:05 AM

Jonathan, thank you for being the kind of Christian Christ calls us to build up, not destroy, to encourage, not to criticize. I will pray so hard that Ms. Perry heeds your words and listens intently to The Holy Spirit, who once inspired her. Lord, help Katy see her power to witness the goodness of Christ.

   dan manns         6/18/2012 9:36:13 AM

jonathan, great letter! i bet she would read it and take it to heart as long as it gets to her! now the trick is to get it past her PR person and maybe her publicist and you are golden!


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